Why won't she leave

One of the best ways in life to find out if something is truly yours is by, letting go and seeing if it comes back to you. The most common example of this is breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend and seeing if they still want to be a part of your life or if they will walk away.

However, what do you do when you break up with someone and this person does refuse to go away? Not that, this person is a stalker, per se but they simply refuse to give up on the relationship, when you know it is over. For example, I once dated a girl that really, really liked me but I could tell she was really, really liking some other people at the same time. Oh, she made every effort to hide it from me but you know when someone is not being faithful to you, especially, when it comes to unexplainable bruises and scratch marks found on that person’s body. Another great case-in-point would be the person getting calls and scurrying off to another room to talk in a low voice.

Still, this leaves me with one huge question. If that person wants to see someone else and I break up with her, then why does she insist on keeping the relationship going? The only answers I could come up with would be financial security or maybe the person they are seeing only wants a fling and nothing more so, she stayed for relationship security, which makes no sense to me.

A little while back, I wrote an article called, ‘Why Cheater’s Cheat.’ In the article, I surmised the main reason behind the cheating by blaming it on that person wanting attention. I still feel the same now but if she is getting plenty of attention from me then could there be another cause for random infidelity?

Still, she tried to pretend that she was forever faithful, forever true but the bruises kept showing up. At one point, I began making excuses for her like; maybe it is from her playing with the animals. However, when she blamed the bruises on me, I knew she was lying. When you touch someone that you love, you remember everywhere you touched that person.

Therefore, back to my original question; I knew it was over, I called it quits but she refused to let the relationship go. Was this a case of her wanting something, she could not have? Perhaps this would be the case. After all, if she was sleeping with other people than she was clearly selfish, anyway. At any rate, that is her problem and not mine. My problem was making her truly realize that I did not want anything else to do with her and eventually, I did.

My advice to anyone is simple. If you are in a relationship and that person breaks up with you…walk away and leave it at that. You cannot force someone to love you or want you…especially, if you have been unfaithful to him or her. Oh, and do not waste time talking about how you will change and be a better person. Surely, you realize that while you are promising to change, you are actually sitting there and lying right to their face again. If you care about that person, you would leave and move on.